Vacation like your life depends on it.
As a confessed workaholic, vacations can actually be hard for me to take. I love my work and it’s actually like play most of the time. Obviously there are hard things to tend to and take care of and there are stressors that come from serving people and learning a team. But, most of the time on most days I love what I do and it fuels me to do it. So, disengaging from that work and being fully present with my family can be hard to do for me.
HOWEVER, there are huge benefits to being in a different space at a different pace that allow me to reconnect to the wondrous creations that God has allowed me to be with as a husband and a dad. I’m more blown away by WHO they are and the magnificence in their souls than anything here at Yellowstone National Park. The park is simply amazing, but my family — WOW — even more impressive. But, if I had stayed back in Kentucky with my nose to the grindstone then I’d have missed it. So, for me this vacation and all my vacations are about reconnecting with these who I love so much.
Most western style economies are seeing more and more of us take less and less time for leisure, sabbath and vacations. I believe that if I am going to be as productive in the work I’m called to for the long haul much of that will be controlled by the quality of my family life. All work and no play not only dulls us, but it robs of one of the greatest gifts we can give to ourselves and our family and our work — a rejuvenated, connected, loved soul that creates from the overflow and not by scanning the bottom of the emotional and relational bucket so to speak.
So, even though, my workaholic tendencies try to keep it from happening, I more gladly than ever, override my workaholism and douse the flames of overwork with a great vacation as often as I can.
It makes me happier, more connected to my family and actually far more productive in my work and more available to my team and those I serve. It’s an irony, but vacationing actually gives me more to share at work. It’s a win for me, my family and my work.
So, I’m learning to vacation like my life depended on it. Maybe you should, too.
ALL THE BEST!
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If you wanna go fast, go alone. If you wanna go far, go with your tribe.
Native American Proverb
I’m experiencing this right now on two fronts.
On the first front, I’m out at Yellowstone National Park with my family and we are having an amazing experience — most of the time. The van ride with the crew, although long, and the vistas and the singular breathtaking area that Yellowstone is defies description. But, the truth is that the hiking trails are slow going for me, whereas the boys and Julie can scoot right up them. So, they decided at multiple decision points not to just run off and leave me, but to slow their pace and not cover as much distance so we can stay together. They loved me enough to not run off and leave me which they could have on every single trail we’ve been on and we have been on a lot of them. This has been humbling and encouraging both. I love who my sons are becoming as young men with compassion and smarts and humor and all that. It has shone through on the trails as they slowed to let me travel close to them. I am grateful.
The second area where I’m experiencing the power of going with a tribe is in my work as a Pastor of a thriving church. The team back in Kentucky is doing great work on all the different fronts it takes to care for people and advance our work while I’m out here enjoying life with my family. The truth is that when Julie and I started this church we were fortunate enough, and wise enough, to bring a great team onto the mission with us. And, that has made all the difference. Each one of the members of our team have had to slow down and take breaks at times for health, or travel, or family reasons. And, the great news is that we have been willing to carry one another burdens and adjust our pace as needed to move along together. And, its been beautiful and powerful and it’s made for a healthy church. I’m so grateful that I can be out here with my family and recharge and our church won’t miss a beat due to the team working back home. That’s what it means to go together. I am amazed by our team members. They are super talented and smart problem solvers and passionate about the mission we share. I’m humbled and grateful to have the chance to travel with them.
The truth is that either of these situations would have crushed my ego in years gone by. But, life has taught me a lot about limitations and strengths and what matters more. And, beloved it or not, practicing Yoga, more than any other wellness pursuit, has taught me about ‘doing my practice’ — that is, doing what I can and not worrying about what others can or cannot do. Going into a Yoga class is an experience in crushing of my ego. I’m like the ‘Aaflack duck’ if you’ve seen that commercial. I’m really really bad at Yoga and yet it is really good for my lungs and body which is exactly what I need to carry our my mission on this ball of rock called earth. So, I voluntarily check my ego at the door a few times a week in order that I might learn from someone far more advanced so that I may gain more vibrant health and well being to carry out my work and enjoy my family and friends farther into the future than I could ever do on my own. And, yet, when I’m in class I all alone. In essence, I am practicing Yoga alone together with the class.
The principle of teaming up is ancient. It is referenced by a King named Solomon which says that ‘If a man prevails against one who is alone, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.’ Ecclesiastes 4:12 (WEB)
Out here in Yellowstone I’m learning a lot. I’ve almost always know that wolves are pack animals. But, I learned even more yesterday about the complexities of pack life and that, indeed, to thrive out here in the sorts of winter weather that they have you better have a pack. Truth is that we all need a ‘pack’ or a ‘tribe’ or a ‘family’ or ‘team’ or ‘church’ — a group to do life with so that we can prevail even when tough times come.
I know as a younger leader that I tried to do most things alone, but over the years I have not only accepted the help of other, but I have enjoyed, marveled and our efforts have been multiplied in positive impact. in that help. And, the reality is that the most important contributions I have made have been by serving alongside a team. Yes, I have alpha leader traits that could push me out into ‘lone wolf’ territory, but lone wolves don’t last long. I’m choosing more and more often to tap into the power of the pack to bring great things to life that make the world a better place.
I hope you’ll consider the power of teaming up and accepting help from others on your quest to change the world. You can go farther with a team than you ever could alone.
Yes, I know that for a while you could be way out in front — all alone. And, as long as everything remains perfect on your path that will be glorious, but when real life comes knocking you’re gonna wish you had a team to get your back.
Here's to you leading better than you ever have before.
ALL THE BEST!
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I don’t like the 'winds of adversity' and I’m assuming you don’t either.
But as this fallen tree at Rocky Mountain National Park can show us, wind actually transforms us. As a matter of fact scientists have learned that trees grown in controlled environments with zero wind stress don’t grow well at all. The winds of adversity you are facing can transform you into an even stronger more beautiful person.
You may also find it interesting that scientist have tried to grow trees in 'perfect' indoor conditions where there is no wind and those trees actually suffer and are not strong enough to stand upright. So, it turns out that the comfort I actually seek could be to my detriment, while the winds of adversity I wish would subside might actually be doing something powerfully important in my life.
So, the next time you feel like you'd just like to be 'DONE' with the winds of adversity in your life lean in and remember that the wind is there to make you stronger and more beautiful.
ALL THE BEST!
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I'm trying to get ready to run in a 5K Fun Run with our church in a few weeks. I've been at this for about 12 weeks now and I'm glad to report that my body is getting stronger, more ready and more 'used to' being out of breath and having my heart pounding a lot more beats per minute that I'm used to or 'comfortable' with.
I'm relearning that progress in life, business, love, launching greater things and athletics all requires time in the 'uncomfortable zone' to condition our hearts, minds, bodies and spirits to accomplish the dream within. I'm learning to step in the discomfort of breathing harder and having a higher heart rate than I'm used to. That's where gains are made.
Your gains are out 'there' in the 'zone of the uncomfortable' or the 'stretch zone' .
What dream are you pursuing that's worth getting a little uncomfortable for?
My dream is to come alongside people who have dreams and the moxy to believe that they just may be able to make a positive dent in the world and make things a little better. The best place to join me is to sign up for my 'almost daily' email here so you won't miss a thing.
I hope you'll join my email list and if you find this helpful please share it and leave a comment.
ALL THE BEST!
If you could focus your life and do only those things that really 'move the needle' and help you and your team 'win' then you'd be much better off wouldn't you?
I've been attempting to put the principles from Steven Covey's Time Management Matrix into practice ever since he shared it in 'The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People.' Learning how to sort through these quadrants and invest more and more time in Quadrant II has really helped me.
Maybe it will help you, too!
Go here and watch this short video.
ALL THE BEST!
Here's to you leading stronger and living bolder, happier and more purposeful than ever before.
ALL THE BEST!
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THESE THREE ARM BANDS MEAN THAT I FINALLY GOT IT RIGHT! I WAS THERE FOR EVERY SINGLE MOMENT WHEN MY SON PLAYED BASEBALL THIS WEEKEND!
I don't know about you, but I've blown it a LOT when it comes to being fully present at pivotal moments as my children grew up. Back in the day I was so hard charging in my pursuits to build an enterprise and lead a large ministry that I put my family on the back burner for years. I missed so much and I wish I could turn the clock back and just sit with them more and enjoy every conversation and every replay of all of those Disney movies that my beautiful daughter invited me to enjoy, but most of the time I was 'way to busy' with things that 'were so vitally important' to Lord knows who now. I blew it bad and it's time I can never get back. It breaks my heart to think how much I missed out on -- and my sweet daughter did too.
I nearly had a break down in a bookstore where Bob McGrath, of Sesame Street was doing a book signing and singing some of those classic Sesame Street songs that took me back to my childhood and somehow I came to my senses and stopped the madness and quit my side hustle and refocused my life to a more sane pace. That break down created a breakthrough that led me to a lot of soul searching about success truly looked like for me and it included much more time spent with my children and my wife. I realized late, but, not too late that time and truly being there with those I love and building memories are what matter most to me. So, I made a purpose filled course correction and reset the 'successometer' in my life to more accurately represent what truly matters to me.
So, this weekend of watching lots and lots of baseball with Julie represented a victory of sanity and of choosing to lean into my definition of success. And, this weekend I got to see our son pitch a great game. Imagine if I hadn't had that breakdown in the bookstore -- I probably would have been off chasing some 'lesser thing' and would have likely missed the whole show this weekend.
I don't know how many more trips I have around the sun, but for this moment I captured memory after memory after memory with Kaleb and Julie. And, I'll treasure these three silly arm bands in a journal as trophies of a decision and course correction made a long way back there that has made all the difference.
So, here's to you working out your definition of success and collecting more arm bands that matter to you.
ALL THE BEST!
Jeff speaks and trains on what it takes to win in life by creating a score card that represents what YOU deem as 'true success' and then having the courage to live boldly into that vision.
I just got the news that a sharp promising Pastor of a California mega-church committed suicide.
Now all that seems like an oxymoron unless you're a point leader -- especially if you're the point leader of a church.
I'll be brief and simply say for now that Pastors and other Point Leaders suffer from a unique set of wounds that only other point leaders can understand.
Most people play it safe and stay in the pack to cover their back side, but by definition a point leader climbs the hill first and therefore is exposed to the hazards in front of her/him in the heat of battle and also is more exposed to the judgment of those 'behind' her/him. It is a crucible that magnifies small scrapes and can infect that scrape so that it becomes an oozing mass of pain and pussy nastiness.
It's tough to fight the enemy you have out in front of you, the 'demons' within, and to take arrows from behind from a culture that 'needs' somebody to blame for their situation and it's usually the point leader nearest them that wears the target. And, in America, that targeted one is often the lead pastor of a local church.
So, I'm preparing to launch a new project aimed at helping Point Leaders become stronger from within and to know how to stay on mission despite the challenges that all 'Point Leaders' will face. [ the link won't be active for a while so if you want to be on the wait list please send me a message on FB Messenger at Jeff Fuson Motivation ]
I'm seeking the advice of Point Leaders who are church planters who are now serving as lead pastors in the church that they've planted. I'd love to talk with you if you fit that profile. I've got some great things to give you for those of you who reach out and have a quick text conversation with me. [ and I promise not to sell you anything! ]. Just click here to share your advice please.
Carey Nieuwhof just posted an excellent article that you may want to check out here.
You are probably reading this because you hope to have or already have a purpose filled passionate life that matters. Either way, what I've learned over many years of speaking and preaching is that the positive impact of one's life is almost always in direct proportion to the vitality of their relationship with God.
So, in my opinion, there is no greater thing we can do than to develop our relationship with God.
Prayer is a vital component of our relationship with God.
If you'd like to learn to pray better then download 'A Simple Way to Pray' by Martin Luther here. It's powerful, simple, brief and very practical.
All the Best,
The amount of 'resistance' you encounter is proportional to the level of change you intend to bring to the world... Steven Pressfield as quoted in this Ted Talk
If you are part of the 'rainmaker' tribe -- one of those who must change the world for the better somehow then you need -- no you MUST-- hear this talk. It will help you make sense of the resistance that all rainmakers and change-bringers encounter. It's universal and it helps to know how one of our tribe overcame it.
Go make it rain!
If you've ever felt like life's just not working out the way you planned or that life has left you broken then this is for you! Enjoy the miraculous story of Tiffani Leyendecker's near death experience. [ Special thanks to Tiffani and CJ Leyendecker for being so transparent and so helpful. ]
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